Here’s to the Girls

The way we glamorize being thin and constantly discuss our bodies and diets has transpired into a culture of insecurity. So much so that 7 out of 10 girls believe they’re not good enough or don’t measure up in some way whether that be in their looks, performance in school, or relationships with friends.

For What You’re Worth

Give yourself permission to seek out the things that give you an internal glow because when the inside thrives, so does the outside.

How to Speak Up and the Importance of Skin in the Game

With just a few simple tools I can help you talk to a professional in a way that benefits YOU- your body, your mind, and your soul!

The Makings of my Past: Why You Should Name Your Eating Disorder

When we begin to acknowledge our own voice as different than that of our eating disorder’s, we create an ability to fight and overcome.

The Makings of my Past

An eating disorder is SO MUCH MORE than vanity. It isn’t about being skinny, it’s about control.

The Only Things That Need to ‘Get a Room’ are Maura Kelly’s Thoughts

Audi Arrivals At The Emmy Awards (Photo credit: Audi USA)

 

I realize I’m late on the uproar that stemmed from the Marie Claire article entitled,  ‘Should Fatties Get a Room’ (Even on T.V.), but my feelings are not about to silenced whether I am up to date or behind on the ‘know’.

To say I am displeased would be an understatement. The simple fact that this woman gets paid to write such things blows my mind and infuriates me. She not only blatantly makes fun, degrades, and bashes overweight people but she even has the audacity to compare obese people to heroin users and drunks. Her insensitivity jumps off the page and her blood boiling comments attack the very people in life who are struggling most and highlight our world’s skinny obsession.

Food is a subject that many people struggle with, it has never come easy to me and I can totally relate to both sides of the spectrum. This woman seems to think that being overweight means that you do not deserve to be publicly intimate, be on television, breathe in her presence, or have any of the other every day freedoms of someone who is quote on quote “thin”. She finds puke steering towards her lips as she watches any considerably ‘fat’ by society individual kiss or simply walk across a room as she puts it.

I wonder how this woman would feel if someone was disgusted by her presentation, whether it be in the clothes she wears, or maybe she’s too thin. If anyone wrote an article that was a tribute to all things negative about her I doubt that she would be displaying smiles or happy comments.

Maura Kelly then goes on to provide advice to the very people she is disgusted to look at, I mean she claims she has some ‘plump’ friends so she must be an expert. I think her advice is fogged by the very fact that she cannot understand that food can be an addiction for some people or a clutch for deeper sorrows. She gives tricks and tips but she cannot even find a place in her heart of understanding or empathy for the very individuals she makes fun of, the very ones who are suffering enough with or without her nasty comments and naive suggestions.

Kelly apologizes in the end, after receiving scrutiny, leaving me to wonder if the apology would have come if she had not gotten so much negative feedback from readers. I give props for her owning up to having an eating disorder and giving an apology but I in no way believe that in any way erases her words from my brain. The simply fact that she suffers from an eating disorder should allow her to find a place in her heart of understanding and kindness for those who cannot win their battle with food. Maura Kelly may not be flaunting her food issues in the form of extra fat or being deemed ‘obese’, but regardless she is submersed in a food obsession like those who are overweight.

Free speech is a beautiful thing but so is knowing when to file your notions into the confines of your own brain and when to share them with the world. The act of being a published writer is a privilege and Maura Kelly is an example of a woman who used her talents and job to do more harm than good.

For the full article: http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-television